By Heather Askinosie

We all have that one friend who effortlessly attracts people, opportunities and excitement into their life. This friend has a name, but most of us just call them, “lucky.” The truth is, their good fortune has less to do with luck, and more to do with energy…

The energy a person puts off, affects how others see them. A person who is energetically closed off, is perceived as unwelcoming. It’s kind of the aura version of walking around with your head down and your arms crossed. However, when a person radiates the energy of confidence, openness and passion, they become a magnet for all the universe has to offer. Just as people carry an energy, so do crystals. By using crystals to connect with and enhance our own energy, we can transform our lives and begin attracting the kinds of opportunities we thought only our lucky friends got to receive.

It may sound like magic, but it’s actually a lot of work. Crystals are tools, touchstones you can hold onto. You can’t expect your tools to do the work for you, but you can rely on them to help you as construct the life you want for yourself. Every crystal has a specific energy. The type of crystal you “need” depends on the positive changes that you are trying to create and where you’re at in your life. Usually, the crystal you are intuitively attracted to is the crystal that you most need in your life at that moment. (For more on that, take this crystal test).

I still remember the first crystal that I was drawn to, 25 years ago. It was an Amethyst that I found in a store full of crystals, soaps, essential oils and odd knick-knacks. At the time, I had a successful career as a real-estate agent, great friends, a loving family and a house by the beach. Yet, I felt something was missing. I knew nothing about crystals, and certainly nothing about crystal energy, but I stood in that store holding that Amethyst for hours. It pulled me to find out more about crystals, and sent me on a whirlwind of discovery.

I traveled the world learning about holistic healing and how different cultures used crystals in their sacred rituals. I learned about how Quartz crystals are used in tech devices for programming, and how they can be used in meditation to program positive intentions. I learned about Shungite, and how the locals of Karelia, Russia were using the stone to purify their water centuries before scientists discovered the existence of antioxidant fullerenes within the crystal.

Eventually, I quit my job and started my own crystal business, Energy Muse, with my best friend and co-founder, Timmi Jandro. Suddenly, that feeling of something missing in my life was gone. I didn’t realize it that day in the crystal shop, but I’d later learn that Amethyst is a crystal that brings you to see and break out of what isn’t working in your life. But how do you know which crystal is right for you? How do you have that Amethyst moment?

One way is to walk into a crystal store, and allow yourself to trust your intuition as you select your crystal. Some will just stand out to you, and you won’t know why—this is your intuition guiding you. Another, is to do a little self-reflection to understand what you’re looking to change. Is it your love life? Your work? Are you ready to start a new phase of life, but fear of the unknown is standing in your way? Whatever you’d like to change, there is a crystal whose energy can guide you along that journey.

I want LOVE…

If you’re looking to inspire love in your life, you’ll want Rose quartz and Malachite crystals. Rose quartz lends a sense of compassion, self-love and optimism into the heart chakra to help you open up, and be more vulnerable when accepting and giving the energy of love. The energy of Malachite is about helping you to understand what negative patterns have kept you from finding lasting love.


For those seeking to inspire more prosperity in their careers, Aventurine and Pyrite are the crystals you need. Aventurine will guide you to recognize what risks you need to take in order to expand your success. Pyrite is beneficial for becoming aware of the negative tendencies that are limiting your prosperity.


If it’s healing that you need, grab Selenite and Shungite. As the selenite works to purify your spirit of the dark emotions that are bringing you down, the shungite will work to introduce balance and stability through its detoxifying energy. You’ll also want some black tourmaline around the house for protection. Black tourmaline assists in keeping the negative energy that you collect through out the day from entering your home.


And for those wanting to bring a new life into their journey, the best crystal for fertility is moonstone. Moonstone energy infuses you with calming vibrations, so that you can stop worrying about ovulation and stressing about your body. Placing anxiety on yourself creates unhealthy mental and emotional blocks. Get back in touch with your divine feminine through moonstone, and allow the peace it brings to establish a balance of mind, body and spirit.

MOST Importantly…

The most important thing to learn from crystals is to trust your own power. The perception that you aren’t lucky, so you can’t have the life you want will always keep you trapped in the same misfortune. Once you accept that you can change your life, you can use crystals to amplify your strengths and bring your dreams into fruition.

Heather Askinosie is the co-founder of Energy Muse, and co-author of Crystal Muse: Everyday Rituals to Tune into the Real You available for sale on Amazon.



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